發展自發性

美麗的禮物

隱喻一個治療早洩的手法

無意識的心智,保衛各式各式的寶藏

如同在美術館的守衛.

站立在充滿雕刻的房間

和美麗女人的繪畫.

他們觀察人們的反應

當他們進入那個空的房間,

和聽到突然的感嘆,

"這些"和"啊哈"的欣賞聲

那些聲音很單純自然的從嘴中發出

只要他們看到那些東西

他們是美麗地讓人忘了呼吸.

展現我們的欣賞是很容易的

和想不到的,不受控制的回答,

你可以在孩子身上看到同樣的反應

當他們收到特別的禮物,玩具

或是,

生日禮物或聖誕禮物.

看他們無拘無束的與奮是很有趣的

當他們急著折掉包裝紙

而且四處亂扔

和亂玩玩具

和立刻開始和他玩

甚至可能弄壤他

甚至在他們說出

"謝謝你!"之前

但這可能會讓你更滿足

看成人收到禮物,

謹慎地檢查包裹,

欣賞美的包裝,

緩慢地把包裝紙折開,

欣賞每一個參與的瞬間,

享受每一步的愉悅,

隨著時間的過去伸展,

不給誘惑,

但是接受時間享受每一步,

此時此刻,然後去說一些事情,

到表達他們的欣賞,

想知道可能是高聲的,

然後最後打開盒子,

緩慢地溫和地,拿出禮物,

柔軟地表達他們的愉悅

以一個發自內心而且聰熲的方式,

此時讓贈與者接收到注意

告訴他們多完美,多體貼.

然後,和唯一地然後,

當所有事情都完成了,

最後全面地探索這個禮物,

徹底地享受他們自己,

像一個真實的美術愛好者

也佔領他們的時間,

允許美沉沒,

他們坐沉思和享受每一個

每一連續不停地小時和小時.

以安靜的尊敬和崇拜

他們安靜的方式付出貢獻,

引領他們走到遠方

從一群吵鬧的孩子

跳過叫囂著說"看這和

那個."的孩子

它完全穿越

守衛後退站起

看著和保護著,

知道老師進來,

平息孩子們,獲得他們的注意

緩慢地和謹慎地向他們解釋

如何安靜地欣賞美女,

如何看那些真正在那裡的,

所以他們也能坐著凝視

覺得愉快成長

當他們緩慢地開始知道

如何控制他們自己的意識.

[給了直接的建議直到恍惚

終止.]

developing spontaneity

beautiful gifts

a metaphor about premature ejaculation.

the unconscious mind guards a variety of

      treasures,

like a guard in an art museum.

standing in a room full of sculptures

and paintings of beautiful women.

they get to observe the reactions

of people as they walk into that toom,

and hear the sudden exclamations,

the "oohs" and "aahs" of appreciation

that just burst forth from their lips

as soon as they see those things

that are so beautiful it takes the breath

away.

It is easy to demonstrate our appreciation

with that unexpected,uncontrolled response,

the same kind of reaction you see in children

when they receive a special gift,a toy

perhaps,

a birthday present or a christmas present.

it can be fun to watch their uncontrolled

excitement

as they tear off the wrapping paper

and throw it everywhere

and jerk out that toy

and start playing with it at once

and probably break it

before they even have a chance to say

"thank you!"

but it can be more satisfying

watching an adult receive a gift,

carefully examining the package,

appreciating the beauty of the wrapping,

and slowly undoing it,

savoring each moment of anticipation,

enjoying the pleasure of each step,

stretching it out over time,

not giving in to the temptations,

but taking their time to enjoy each step,

pausing every now and then to say something,

to express their appreciation,

wondering out loud what it could be,

and then finally opening the box,

taking out the gift slowly,gently,

softly expressing their pleasure

in a deep and genuine way,

letting the giver receive attention for a

time,

telling them how wonderful and thoughtful.

and then,and only then,

when everything else has been done,

finally exploring the present completely,

enjoying themselves thoroughly,

like real art lovers

who also take their time,

they allow the beauty to sink in,

they sit and ponder and enjoy each one

for hours and hours on end.

with a quiet reverence and respect

they pay tribute in a quiet way,

that takes them far away

from the crowds of noisy children

skipping through yelling"look at this and

that."

and through it all

the guard stands back

watching and protecting,

knowing that sometimes a teacher comes in,

calms the children,gets their attention

and slowly and carefully explains to them

how to look at the beauty quietly,

how to see what's really there,

so that they too can sit and stare

and feel the pleasure grow

as they slowly begin to know

how to control their own awareness.

[go to a direct suggestion or to trance

termination.]